WHAT COUNTS NOW

I’ve given up. I’m letting go, shedding my skin. I’m here. I’m all here. And my purpose is to be a role model for my students here, to invest time in relationships and matters that truly count now. I’ve barely begun to siphon through things and discard those that don’t; what I’ve accomplished so far feels really good, even though letting go is hard.
“If someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll make an effort to be in it. So don’t bother reserving space in your heart for someone who doesn’t make an effort to stay.”
A cousin of mine shared this quote by an unknown author today. His timing was perfect. Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about investments. So much of life is about making investments—commitments—not only financially, with our time and love as well. Wouldn't you agree? I’m left with many questions.

My biggest wonder is why I get so attached to people who seemingly don't care about me. I put in so much time and effort; yet, I receive very little to nothing in return. Making poor investments like this has become a trend in my life over the past year or two.

I’ve also neglected many wonderful friends, even family, who constantly invest in me. I push their care aside so I can finance unequally important connections and/or ventures. I really hate this aspect of my personal banking system. It needs immediate revision. Just like my real financial situation.

As I continue to embark on this adventure, plan ahead, set goals and get my life in order, I want to remain aware of how and where I devote my time and love. I want identify who and what really matters, ridding myself of commitment that doesn’t.

My purpose is to be a role model for my students here, to invest time in relationships and matters that truly count now. Who matters to you? What truly counts now? ‘Don’t reserve space in your heart for someone who doesn’t make an effort to stay…’

Thanks to those of you who consistently make an effort to be part of my life. Thanks for reading and following along on my journey. Thanks for your continued love and support, for providing laughter and comfort throughout. I’m beyond blessed with a wealth of incredible family and friends.

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16 comments :

  1. Anonymous7:44 AM

    I'm sharing this with my family. This says just what I needed to say, and to hear. Thank you.

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    1. Thanks for pushing me to do so as well, friend.

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  2. The timing of this post is so perfect. I often find myself on the opposite end; retreating into myself or launching myself into a totally new venture, when I should be strengthening connections with friends and family and spending more time with the people who inspire me. Thank you for pushing me to reach out and connect. Thank you for motivating me to be a better friend.

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    1. "Piper", Thanks for sharing! I do the same. Continue to reach out and connect. I promise to as well. Everyone can be a better friend. It just takes awareness, I believe.

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  3. How sweet of you to write a blog just for me! :P

    Seriously though, amazing how we are all feeling the same thing to some extent. This problem is constant in my life, and I end up hurting myself more than anyone else by clinging to those who do not reciprocate. How much more time could I invest in those I am overlooking? Thanks for your message. Love the quote.

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    1. Rena, you asked the most appropriate question. "How much more time could I invest in those I am overlooking?" Thank you. This will stay with me as I continue to re-appropriate funds.

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  4. I am not sure when I created this "Piper" profile, but it must have been ages ago. It's Shannon (fellow RPCV). I figure if I am going to start reaching out and connecting with people, I should at least provide my name.

    So true though - awareness is key.

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    1. HAHA! Hello Shannon! So lovely to hear from you. I peeped at your profile, and knew you would be a fellow RPCV. Thanks for providing your name. :)

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  5. A nice reminder to balance the checkbook of my heart. What is going in and what am I putting out.

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    1. “Soph and Eliz”, your username brings back so many good memories. You are, and continue to be, quite the duo of beauty. Thank you for your eloquence.

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  6. Another great post Chase! And so true... I've been thinking about this a lot lately...as leaving places/people behind and starting new adventures can be such a tension for me at times! I want to go and do and see but I hate losing touch with people...but also there is just not enough time/energy to keep in touch with everyone from home and make friendships here and be present at school! Glad to know I'm not the only one learning how to be intentional about relationships, especially while in Korea! :)

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    1. Bethany, I'm also glad to know I'm not the only one learning how to be more intentional with relationships. It's definitely an ongoing process, and something both of us will continue to deal with for the rest of our wandering lives! I can't wait for your next adventure(s) in life, and look forward to seeing you again. Thanks for your friendship!

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  7. Nicole1:05 AM

    Chase,
    Thank you so much for that post. I needed to hear that today. Be well. Love you, Nic.

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    1. Nicole, I think we all need to hear this most days. Thanks for continuing to invest in our friendship. I miss you very much, think about you often, and can't wait to see you again.

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  8. I thought you might like this.

    http://accordingtodd.wordpress.com/2011/06/13/vested-interests/

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    1. Thanks for sharing your post, Delon!

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